Hi, my name is Rob. I have a practice based in Western Turville, Aylesbury. I'm 58 years old and I'd like to help you if you're stressed, anxious or depressed*.
You're probably here because you're struggling with depression, anxiety and or stress, and perhaps you're wondering, "How can I help you?"
Well, I do have great empathy for anyone suffering depression. Some time back and following a few challenging life events, I became ill and was diagnosed with depression, anxiety and stress. These memories have left their mark. I therefore decided to retrain as a counsellor to help people get through those dark days. In addition to this, I have seen both good counsellors and bad counsellors over the years. I know the difference. I take the best skills and techniques from the good counsellors, and add them to my training and experience to help you with your mental health.
You have to start talking and you have to keep talking. Talking can free you up and allow space for your recovery to begin. I will support you. If you would like my help, call me.
Call: 07734 499 050
Email: rob@rs-counselling.co.uk
As a member of The British Psychological Society (BPS), I am driven by our 4 principles. These are to act always with...
Respect, Competence, Responsibility and Integrity.
I have 58 years of life to reflect on, I find this experience has been the most helpful for therapy sessions when talking with and helping clients.
Robert Sharpling. BSc (Hons) Counselling Psychology. GMBPsSP (GBC)
*Scroll down for some other common difficulties which can be helped through therapy
Research shows that counselling is an effective treatment for mental health issues, with long term benefits for mental well- being. It can be a vital tool for addressing mental health issues such as; anxiety, stress, depression, ADHD, family issues, and low self-esteem. I offer a safe, comfortable and confidential space for you to explore your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours, and develop practical coping strategies to start recovery.
Therefore, anyone dealing with mental health issues, seeking counselling is a proactive and effective way to prevent, manage, and treat them. Counselling is an investment in one's mental wellness, improving the quality of life, family relationships, and overall well-being. My private practice is based in Western Turville, Buckinghamshire. This is in easy reach of; Aylesbury, Wendover, Aston Clinton, Tring, Berkhamsted, Hemel Hempstead, Kings Langley Abbots Langley, St Albans and London.
If you need help with any of the above contact me on 07734 499 050.
Anxiety is the most common mental health disorder worldwide. It can be overwhelming and debilitating. Severe anxiety can lead to panic attacks, physical symptoms, and social isolation, which then make it difficult to maintain healthy relationships.
Research shows that counselling is a highly effective treatment for anxiety. It provides a non-judgmental and supportive environment for people to explore their fears, identify triggers, and develop practical strategies to manage their anxiety.
The thing clients seek most is 'understanding'. That is, they wish to understand what has happened, what is happening and what the future might look like after treatment. They seek to be understood (by me in session) and they seek to understand me.
If you would like to begin to understand the anxiety you're going through
Call me now: 07734 499 050
Or email now: rob@rs-counselling.co.uk
Depression is another common mental health disorder that affects millions of people globally. Depression can be caused by multiple factors, such as genetics, stress, trauma, and environmental factors. People with depression experience a persistent feeling of sadness, hopelessness, and loss of pleasure in everyday activities, making it challenging to function in everyday life. You have my sympathy if you are depressed just now. Know that I understand. Know that I been severely depressed and know that we can talk with compassion and understanding to help give you your own coping strategy and help you find a pathway up and out, to find some peace and calm amidst the storm of depression.
Counselling is a crucial tool for treating depression. Counselling offers methods such as holistic therapy, humanistic, person-centered, behavioural or solution focused. We'll explore emotions, gain insight into your thoughts, and develop coping strategies. Counsellors also teach people how to identify negative patterns of thinking and replace them with more positive ones. Research shows that counselling is an effective treatment for depression, with long-term benefits for mental wellness.
Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects millions of people worldwide. ADHD is characterized by symptoms of inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity that affect people's ability to function in daily life. People with ADHD often experience difficulties in managing time, prioritizing tasks, and organizing information.
I have experience of ADHD with a couple of diagnosis within the family. It's been helpful for me to witness some of the symptoms and to gain this personal insight of ADHD.
Counselling is an essential tool for treating of ADHD. It provides a safe and supportive environment for individuals to explore their symptoms, identify triggers, and develop coping strategies. Counselling also teaches people how to improve their organizational and time-management skills.
Research shows psychotherapy to be an effective treatments for ADHD, with long-term benefits for mental wellness.
Family issues can be a significant source of stress and conflict in people's lives. Family issues can arise from multiple factors such as separation, divorce, bereavement, abuse, or conflicts between family members. These issues can lead to anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem, affecting people's mental wellness and hindering their ability to function in daily life.
Counselling is a valuable tool for addressing family issues. Counselling offers family therapy, which focuses on improving communication, resolving conflicts, and building healthy relationships.
I see individuals for therapy. It's important that a client is able to talk openly about any member of their family. As such individuals are welcome but not with any other family member.
Family therapy can help families identify patterns of behavior that contribute to family problems and develop practical strategies to overcome them. Research shows that family therapy is an effective way to support families in alleviating mental health difficulties that arise within them.
Low self-esteem is a common mental health issue that affects people of all ages. Low self-esteem occurs when people develop negative beliefs about themselves and their abilities, leading to feelings of worthlessness, guilt, and shame. Low self-esteem can be a root cause of anxiety, depression, and other mental health problems that affect people in daily life. So we can take a look at the route of the low self-esteem via talks about the past and perhaps challenging some of these long held beliefs. Other clients have told me they didn't want to do that. They preferred to look forward, set goals and strive toward that. They have mentioned that doing so have meant they have been so focused that they have left their issues behind and like to keep pushing on forward. This illustrates well 2 points. The first is that you choose the way you would like to work. And then, that no two clients are the same or would choose the same psychotherapy. You're unique and so it follows that your treatment would be unique too.
Counselling is a highly effective tool for treating low self-esteem. Counselling helps people identify and challenge negative beliefs about themselves and develop positive self-talk, building self-confidence and self-esteem. As counsellor I can provide strategies to help people manage negative emotions and develop healthy relationships. Research shows that psychotherapy can be an effective treatment for low self-esteem, with long-term benefits to mental wellness.
People come to me for help with a wide range of issues. Here are a few of the more common mental health struggles that can be supported through counselling:
Bipolar
Feeling anxious
Panic attacks
Relationship problems
Grief, loss or bereavement
Problems with addiction
Trauma and post-traumatic stress
Abuse
Gambling / Debt
Depression
Problems with confidence or self-esteem
Anger management
ADHD
Difficulties at work or in retirement
Problems with family or school life
Feeling Stressed
I have a private practice based in Western Turville, Buckinghamshire. The practice is within easy reach of Aylesbury, Berkhamsted, Tring, Wendover, Aston Clinton, Hemel Hempstead, Kings Langley, Abbots Langley, St Albans and London.
£60 per 50-minute session.
Assessment - This is usually carried out over the phone or on Zoom (FOC)
Sessions are face-to-face in the practice, over Zoom, or on the phone.
I currently have availability on Thursday & Friday afternoons.
Feel free to contact me if you have any questions about how counselling works, or to arrange an initial talk on the phone. This enables us to discuss the reasons you are thinking of coming to counselling, whether it could be helpful for you and whether I am the right therapist to help. The initial chat is free of charge
You can also call me on 07734 499050 if you would prefer to leave a message or speak to me first. I am happy to discuss any queries or questions you may have prior to arranging an initial appointment.
Many therapists tend to view Counselling as ‘short-term’ work; when someone has a problem that can be looked at and discussed in a clearly-resolvable way. This work often requires undertaking sessions for a certain number of weeks, to explore, discover and clarify a way forward. Therapy is a word used more to describe ‘long-term’ work; discussion that tends towards substantial issues and things that might be life-changing on a deeper level.
Whether counselling or therapy work best as a short- or long-term option depends on the client though, and the difficulties they are facing. In some cases counselling can prove helpful as a continuing, longer-term option, or therapy can help resolve an issue in just a few sessions.
There’s no fixed or ideal length of time for the counselling process; it varies from person to person and will often depend on the depth of the issues they are facing. My aim is to make sure therapy continues only as long as it is of benefit to you. While I can work on an open-ended basis with clients, I find it is helpful for us to agree a 6 week review. At this point we can look back to see what the objectives were when we started and see how you are getting on after 6 weeks. We can then discuss if you feel you are getting benefit, if you feel you no longer need therapy, or if you want to continue. Remember, it's up to you.
My aim is to offer you a first appointment, known as an assessment session within 1-2 weeks, this is once we receive your completed client pack back.
Confidentiality is one of the main ways in which therapy differs from many other forms of helping - for example, talking to friends or family can rarely offer the same degree of confidentiality as talking to a counsellor. Because of this confidentiality, you will find that - as you get used to coming for therapy - you are freer to talk about whatever you wish to.
No therapist can offer 100% confidentiality: there are some situations where the law requires disclosure of risk (e.g. certain child protection issues) and in common with most other therapists, there are some situations where I may not be able to keep total confidentiality. In particular, if someone tells me that they are thinking of harming themselves in a way that I believe puts them at serious risk, or if someone tells me that they are doing something that could put others at risk, I may not be able to keep such information confidential. However, breaking confidentiality is rare, and only happens after talking to the person concerned.
When you come for counselling it's important that you feel free to talk about whatever is important to you. Sometimes, you may not be clear what those issues are. Having a friend or family member with you is not usually helpful because they may have their own agenda for you. Even if this is just that they want to be supportive, or want you to 'get better', this agenda can prevent us opening issues up. When you come for therapy, you may need to explore thoughts or behaviours about which you feel ashamed or embarrassed and you may censor yourself so as not to hurt someone, or you may find that what they want you to talk about is not really what you need to discuss.
Sometimes, family/friends can even be part of an underlying issue which needs to be aired and discussed. Usually, people who ask this question are nervous about coming for a session alone, or they are anxious for the person who is thinking about arranging sessions. This anxiety is quite normal, and you will not be forced to talk about anything you feel uncomfortable about - but you do need to be able to talk about whatever is important. For this reason, I do not see clients accompanied by friends or family
It can be scary and confusing making the decision to contact a counsellor or therapist, but in my experience people struggle with a mental health issue, a personal crisis or problems with a relationship for much longer than is healthy. Sometimes a friend has proved a source of comfort, but this help can only go so far. Realising that resolving a problem requires something more means you have actually already taken the first step towards improving your life.
I have been helping people from all walks of life for over 25 years.
I see it like this... It all starts with how we get on. We know, through numerous studies, that the best chance for successful results in therapy relies on good rapport between client and therapist. The very best counsellor with no client rapport will struggle to get any significant change. An average counsellor with good rapport is more effective and therefore offers a better chance for recovery. The rapport is foremost and holds more weight than any particular given method of therapy used.
A good rapport between us will best determine a positive outcome for you. That's why it's important to have that first free telephone chat to find out if you feel we can work together.
How do I see it.....
I see it as my job to help my clients...
Understand what is troubling them.
To understand what caused this upset.
To understand what recovery looks like.
To create opportunities for you to recover.
The best result is when a client tells me they have regained clarity of thought. This is life changing for them, bringing with it a welcome peace of mind, leading to a calmer life.
"In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity " Einstein.
All that's left to do is to call me 07734 499050 or email rob@rs-counselling.co.uk.
© Robert Sharpling
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